The day is named for a saint, but here’s some good advice just the same on this romantic holiday.
Actually, the saint I remember fondly on February 14 is St. Gaetano Catanoso, my cousin, born on that day in 1879 in the village of Chorio in the region of Calabria, Italy.
When traveling in Calabria (and let’s face it, you really should start making plans!) it’s important to know there is a festival for every season. Cherrye Moore, at My Bella Vita, makes it easy for you to keep up and plan where to go next.
Italians living north of Rome will likely scoff at the notion, put forth here at globalfinancialworld.com, that vacation property in Calabria is an emerging investment opportunity. Calabria, which largely makes up the toe of the boot of Italy, has long, gorgeous coastlines, stunning vistas and rugged mountains. It’s also, I can fairly say, rather poor, often corrupt, mostly undeveloped, and in too many places — cities and villages alike — shabby and unkempt. I can’t speak for the entire region, but in a city like Reggio, blessed with a truly remarkable location, the lack of pride in public works and general civic appearance is evident on too many streets and piazzas. It’s heartbreaking, because it could be so beautiful.
Still, the potential for Calabria to be a genunine tourist destination for Italians, Europeans and Americans is limitless. The natural beauty is there. The history and culture and food and hospitality is there, too. But Im afraid it would require a Herculean change in attitude — in northern and southern Italy — to bring about the necessary changes.
When President-elect Obama nominated Leon Panetta as the new CIA director, Washington insiders were stunned. Later, it was my turned to be surprised when a friend in Spokane, Wash., shared this link with me. It explains that Panetta, whose parents were immigrants for Siderno, just north of Reggio Calabria, speaks the village dialect, as well as Italian, “perfectly,” according to a Calabrian relative.
Michelle Fabio, who runs the wonderful site bleeding espresso from her adopted home in Calabria, offers some sound holiday gift-giving advice here , including a much-appreciated book recommendation. Grazie, Michelle.
Anniversario felice: To Cherrye Moore, a new friend and an American blogger/B&B owner in Calabria. May you have many, many more.
Filmed and edited by Michael Frierson, film professor at UNC-Greensboro
Julie Davis, who skillfully and lovingly manages the blog Happy Catholic, reviews My Cousin the Saint today. The review is here. It’s also here at Catholic Media Review and here at Catholic Online. Julie has generously invited me to contribute a guest post to her blog next week. Here’s an excerpt from her online review:
“In some ways, Catanoso’s story is the dream of every American whose family lost their roots when they came to this country. He receives an email one day from a woman who wonders if they might be related. It turns out that the American branch of the family has long been missing a deep heritage rooted in the Italian countryside. As well, Catanoso discovers that his grandfather’s cousin, Padre Gaetano Catanoso, is being considered for canonization. This unbelievable news, prompts a family visit to Italy where they are lovingly embraced by their newly found relatives and where they begin hearing stories about ‘the saint.’ “
My roaming the blogosphere continues this week at really interesting site called Italyville, hosted by Joe, who lives in Massachusetts, works in Italy from time to time and has family in Calabria. Not a bad combination.
As promised, here are the answers to more questions left last week at the blogs bleeding espresso and My Bella Vita:
Q: Had you lost your faith…and did this make you find it again?” (oops that’s a two part question. Because I also wanted to ask: Did your wife slap you upside the head when she read the above passage [referring to the posted story I wrote "Almost like falling in love]? LOL Sorry. Couldn’t resist./This eclectic life
A: Last question first. No, my wife didn’t slap me. She laughed. We’ve been to Italy several times together, and she’s pretty used to me swooning over the beauty that seems to be everywhere. She swoons as well! How could we not? As for my faith – lost and somewhat found – this truly is a major theme in my story so I don’t want to give away too much here. Let’s just say that I fell completely away from Catholicism after high school and it took a canonized relative to draw me back.
Q: Before your trip to Calabria in 2003, did you spend a lot of time Italy? What role did religion play in your day-to-day life? Nyc/Caribbean ragazza
A: When my wife and I married in 1984, we spent two months traveling through western Europe, 10 of those days in Italy — Venice, Padua, Florence and Rome. It was a glorious experience, and we vowed to return when our children were old enough to take it all in. Our return to Italy took 19 years. I’ve been back four times since then. Regarding religion, it played only a minor role in my life prior to researching and writing my book.
Q: Can we hear the NPR interview somewhere [this commentary led to me being able to write the book]? Fern
A: Yes, just click here. It’s less than four minutes long and aired Oct. 20, 2005, three days before the canonization.
A: In 1984, during a two-month honeymoon tour of Western Europe, my wife and I spent 10 glorious days in Italy – Venice, Padua, Florence and Rome. We didn’t return for 19 years, but that time with our three daughters. Prior to writing this book, religion played a very small role in my day-to-day life.
Q: If you return to Italy again, please promise that you will take your wife and daughters. I, too, am catholic, and wish I knew more about my religion. Question for you: does it all make sense now? Marmie
A: I’ve taken my wife and daughters to Italy, including Calabria twice since 2003. And we were all together for the canonization in St. Peter’s Square on Oct. 23, 2005. And last March, my wife and I went back to Calabria so that the relatives could see the book (I had galley copies to share). I have every intention of visiting my Italian relatives as often as possible, and no intention of ever going back alone. As for Catholicism. I feel like I am a few steps down a very long road. Some things make a bit more sense to me – the rituals of the Mass, the meaning of saints, the tangible comfort of prayer. But the great mysteries of the Church remain mysteries to me.
Q: Has your Italian improved in the past years since visting Italy and doing your research? Carla
A: Yes, relatively speaking. When I made my first trip to Calabria in 2003 with my family, I had no Italian. Upon my return, I started studying on my own, settling on the Pimsleur language training system. I found it extraordinary. Over the next four years, I completed all three levels, some 90 30-minute lessons. I am far from conversant, unfortunately, but I can enough to communicate at a basic level.
Q: When Dorthy Day was called a saint her response was “I won’t be dismissed so easily” (That’s one of my all time favorite quotes). So Justin, What do you think St Gaetano’s response would have been if someone called him a saint?
A: I think Padre Gaetano would have said, “I am not worthy of the honor.” Among his many virtues was his humility. He called himself “the little donkey of Christ.” My Calabrian relatives who knew him tell me would not have approved of the fuss and expense expended over 25 years to ensure his canonization. But like Dorothy Day, Gaetano Catanoso was a saint in the truest sense of the word. He and she lived lives of heroic virtue in service to others.
Q: What does it feel like to be related to a saint? Joanne
A: One of the central questions in my book is this: what does it mean to have a saint in the family, does it mean anything at all? I spent the better part of 300 pages addressing that fundamental question. I wasn’t sure there was a compelling answer when I started my research for this book, but I learned otherwise after spending the better part of a month in Calabria in the summer of 2006 with my Italian relatives there, many of whom knew the saint personally (he died in 1963).
Q: Do you think you reconstructed the episode exactly or do you think you were guided in part from Saint Gaetano who motivated you to write your book? Thanx From Australia
A: It’s hard for me to separate out how hard I had to work for so long to complete this project, with the great luck and good fortune I experienced along the way to make it actually happen. Did St. Gaetano play a role? I won’t argue against that.
Q: Did your trip to Calabria, finding new/old relatives, discovering Italian lifestyle and the research about your cousin the Saint change your attitude towards religion? Do you believe in God (now?/before?/at all?) suzie
A: To answer these questions here would be to reveal 85 percent of the book!
Q: I think what you are doing is brave and admire your goal and aspirations. Today so many people criticize the Catholic church for so many things. How do you think this book will help other Catholics be brave? And able to open up more about there lives in the Catholic church? Thanks, Lainey
A: I don’t know how brave I’m being, but I did strive to be honest, as honest as possible about some deeply personal things when writing my book. The Catholic Church gives many reasons for someone like me to walk away and stay away — particularly when church leaders become politicized, exclusionary and judgmental. I have been fortunate. I have found a church where I feel welcomed, which focuses on the true meaning of the faith, which doesn’t make socio-political demands which exceed its moral authority. I am comfortable there. But I still wrestle with many questions, concerns and doubts. In college, I had a mentor about whom I write about in Part II of my book who told me — “it’s ok if you don’t believe everything the church teaches, just believe what you can.” That piece of advice has resonated with me for more than 25 years.
Q: What’s changed for you (faith-wise) since your book was published? Donna
A: I joined a church – St. Pius X in Greensboro, North Carolina. That’s an enormous change.
